Losing someone is hard. Living life without our loved ones changes everything about who we are. Grief can settle in and our world seems like a different place. Our hearts left only to feel an absence, our minds to only re-live when someone use to be here. It really doesn’t matter how someone passes, if it is known, or unknown, the impact to the soul is the same. We miss them. We go through days where tears and the longing just to talk with them, to see their face, for just one day, well, most of you that loved someone, know this and I don’t have to go any further. So tell me, how did you overcome the loss of someone you loved? How do you deal with the grief in your heart? How long does it take? Does the pain go away?
Excerpt from: Letting Go
Richard stares at the snow-covered yard, acknowledging the date approaching, it would have been their forty-seventh wedding anniversary. He still replays, in his mind, the old days, when they were young and in love. He thinks of his children, now all grown, with lives of their own. He still talks with them, but has distanced himself for it’s easier not to be reminded… reminded of a life he use to have. His head lowers, and finds it odd that it’s been ten years since his wife passed and still feels the pain within his heart every day.
He replays those final months of taking care of her before cancer took her life. He wonders if there was anything else he could have done for her all those years they were married. Regret creeps up on him and the guilt sometimes cripples him.
Excerpt from: Gifts From Mom
It’s been almost nine years and the woman talks as if it was yesterday. She feels blessed she was with her mother on that day.
I asked her, “What do you miss the most about her?
The woman smiles, giggles, and shakes her head and replies, “All the things that use to annoy me. I know it sounds funny. Her sayings: Get off your high horse. Sometimes you have to eat crow. Quit lollygagging around. I miss her good AND bad advice. It’s everything really. She was my friend.”
Excerpt from: Flight – Fright – Fight
Some things change whether we want them to or not. It’s easy staying within the safety of our own reality by living day-to-day, expecting things to remain the same. For some, it does, but for others, life somehow shakes up our ‘normal’ world and gives us unexpected changes such as the loss of love, the ultimate devastation.
This can be lost in many ways, such as a loved one passing, a relationship, or marital breakup, being an abused child, the loss of a valued friendship, job, or a pet. The impact to the heart and soul is the same in varying degrees. How can one deal with it, especially when memories, dates, and things that remind us surface the pain.
It’s often been said, ‘time heals all wounds’. I’ve yet to discover this to be true.